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According to the research- As you begin to see that
es, it was observed that be- saying no gradually makes WHY IS THAT SO
ing able to say “no” against you feel happier and more
GIANT PARTNERSHIP FROM any undesired situation comfortable, saying no will DIFFICULT TO SAY “NO”?
makes the person happier
no longer be that difficult to
JANSSEN AND ABDİ İBRAHİM psychologically, while being you. After friends, you can
unable to say “no” leads
also try to say no to people
person to depression. First
PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANY of all, one may refrain from who are more difficult to NOT BEING ABLE TO SAY “NO” IS A COMMON PROBLEM THAT
say no to. Remember that
saying no as a tendency to
MANY PEOPLE ARE LIKELY TO EXPERIENCE DURING THE DAILY LIFE.
your happiness is more
avoid getting into conflict
with people or because important than anyone, SAYING NO MAY BE MORE DIFFICULT, ESPECIALLY IF THE PERSON
we do not want to have and if you are happy, you IN FRONT OF US HAS CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS WITH US. IN WOMEN,
negative effects on people. will also make those around
But saying “yes” to things you happy. THIS PROBLEM IS MORE COMMON COMPARED TO MEN.
we don’t want can make
us unhappy. Apart from
engaging in conflict, if the
person you are talking to is
someone you care about,
this behavior may be trig-
gered by the an intention
not to break that person
and the anxiety that the
relations between you and
her/him will deteriorate. You
may also abstain from say-
ing no to an authority figure,
for example your boss,
but as a result of that, you
may be under unnecessary
workload and your motiva-
tion to work may decrease.
Lack of self-confidence and
shyness are other factors
that can cause this problem.
Sometimes your self, who
is accustomed to saying
yes, encodes that you will
be a bad and selfish person
when you say no, and you
are focused on acceptance.
Sometimes the harm of not
saying no can be as light as
going to the cinema at the
request of a friend, even if
you don’t want to. However,
the price of that may lead
to serious harm in your life,
sometimes by leading your
life with the preferences of
others, such as making a
decision you do not want or
choosing a profession you
do not want.
How can we say No?
According to experts, first
you have to create a list of
the things you have to do
because you cannot say
no to see how this problem
affects your life. You can
analyze what it feels like not
being able to say no to the
things you wrote on the list
and review yourself in this
way. Then you can start
saying no by starting with
the small questions. For ex-
ample, you can decline the
invitation of a close friend
politely and explicitly, stat-
ing that you do not want it.
Sometimes, the way you
express what you say may
be more prominent than
what you say. Therefore,
when you say no, you should
be careful to say it with a
clear way without any harsh
temperament, explaining
your feelings as much as
possible.